Sharing Your Religion With Your Children
- By Tom Selwick
- Published 07/1/2011
- Religion and Spirituality
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Teaching your children about your religion and why you believe in it may seem like a large and challenging task to many parents. Some parents find it difficult to teach their children about the scripture stories when the text in the Bible and other scriptures is so difficult for them to read and understand.
Others find that the principles taught at school and by other peers seem to negate anything they tell their child about religion. Despite the difficulty, it is important for children to learn about religion from their own parents.
In some ways, the difficulty makes it all the more important for them to learn and understand. The moral principles and virtues taught through religion and through the scripture stories can help children make choices in their daily lives that will help them become successful and to be happier.
The first thing that you should remember when you are teaching your child about religion is that you cannot teach what you do not know. If you are not familiar with the scripture stories enough to be able to explain them to your child when he or she asks questions, you will need to do a little bit of studying in order to even begin teaching him or her.
It is important to know what you believe before you begin trying to share your beliefs so that those you are talking to will take you seriously. If you are not familiar with what you believe, it will not take very many questions to reveal this.
As a result, your children will not take what you are saying seriously and then sharing what you learn can become even more of a struggle for you. Once you are sure of your knowledge of your religion and feel confident that you can explain it effectively, you will need to make sure that the relationship between you and your child is a good one.
Of course your son or daughter will not listen to you if they do not trust you or if there is always contention between you. It is important to spend quality time and quantity of time with him or her in order to build a strong relationship.
When your relationship is strong you will be able to have meaningful conversations and discussions about what you believe. Another very important aspect of sharing what you believe is living what you believe.
If your son or daughter hears you say one thing and sees you do another, it will undermine all of your efforts. It is very important that you decide on what you believe and then choose to live what you believe.
Not only will your religion become much more meaningful in your life, but it will become more meaningful to your child as well because he or she will be able to see how the religion has impacted your life for the better. You cannot say one thing and expect your son or daughter to do it if you do not do it yourself.
If you do not live it, then they will think that it must not be that important. While you will probably not be perfect at it, trying to live it to the best of your ability will be enough because your son or daughter will see you trying.
Of course, you must not only set a good example, but you must become confident enough to talk about it. Be sure to keep the age of your son or daughter in mind as this will affect what is appropriate to discuss.
For example, you will want to start with the cool Bible stories that teach an important principle with younger children. Meanwhile, you may be able to have a more in depth and philosophical discussion with an older sibling.
Do not try to force the doctrine of the Bible stories on them, but teach them why the principle is good and how it can help them in their lives. A gentle persuasion can be much more effective than seeming tyranny.
In addition, be gentle and considerate when answering questions so that you do not make your child feel ignorant. Realize that he or she is learning and that they are interested as long as they are asking questions.
No matter how much of a struggle it may be to teach your religion to your son or daughter, remember that you love him or her. Always show that love to him or her, no matter what he or she decides.
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